One thing I love about Sociology and many of the readings we have done so far is that almost everything is connected. Kimmel’s “Guyland” showed us how guys behave a certain way in order to gain approval from other guys in their social group. “DreamWorld” then showed how far guys would go in terms of objectifying girls in order to gain that masculine approval from other men. Now Froyum talks about how being gay is frowned upon in a poor Black teen culture. I thought she made a very interesting point on page 605 when she talked about how powerful white people view the lower-status males as inferior. The only thing that the lower class Black men can do to portray their power is display their strength in the street, through their objectification of women, or at least by not being gay. I am a supporter of Eminem because of his ability to make things like the word orange rhyme. I appreciate that skill and ability, however I also understand that he constantly uses words like gay, fag, and queer in order to take away someone’s masculinity. Growing up in a poor neighborhood in Hartford, I was surrounded by situations that these Black teens are in. The worst thing that anyone could accuse you of is being gay. In order to prove them wrong, fights were started and girls were taken advantage of. I always wondered where this idea of gay being a bad thing came from. I didn’t realize how central it was even in my life until I started to study religions more. The idea that god created a man and women in order to reproduce is taken advantage of and preached as a central theme in many religions. I also wanted to include an article that disturbed me that was in the news recently.
The second reading reminded me of the discussion we had in class about sex and the many classifications there are of sex. As we mentioned, some countries and cultures believe that there are dozens of ways to classify oneself in terms of sex, however we feel like there should be two definite answers when asked such questions. I can’t tell you how many times I have heard guys say something like, “let me know when you actually want dick” or “tell me when you really want to be pleased” (16). Guys say such things assuming lesbians never are pleased by their partners. I think there is a lot of grey area In between straight and gay or lesbian that we have yet to explore and educate people of. It’s just crazy that guys enjoy watching two girls make out but then look down on them if there is an actual relationship in place.