Having watched the first Tough Guise before I thought I was more mentally prepared to handle what I would see in Tough Guise 2, however I was wrong.
One of the first things the movie discusses is boys not fitting into their families because they can’t act violently. To show this Tough Guy pulls clips from multiple cartoon movies that clearly show boys facing problems in their family as a result of them not acting violently. This idea really intrigued me. I never noticed this theme while watching films before but now I don’t think I’ll be able to overlook the idea. The lesson that “real men turn to violence,” is one that needs to disappear all together. It’s the opposite I as girl was a taught. I was taught that we use our words to solve problems and violence is never an answer. Why is it that that isn’t the universal message? While these cartoon dads are disappointed in their sons for not being able to perform violent tasks, ideally they should be proud. Their sons have grown up with emotion and empathy that makes them unable to perform violently.That’s an accomplishment!
Another idea I found really interesting was how as time goes what it means to become a “real man” only gets harder. Why do we as a society encourage men to strive to become the “ideal guy” when it’s simply intangible. It’s an endless battle. Most likely a large factor for why violent suicide is one of the largest leading death factors. If what it takes to become a man becomes harder to reach than the destruction that goes into the process of becoming a man is only going to increase.
Though men and women are different, they shouldn’t be looked at as opposites. Men are told to be loud, take up space, be wild etc. While women are continually encouraged to be quiet, take up as little space as possible, be graceful etc. The narrator mentions, that increasingly men are told to become bigger but woman are continuously decreasing in size and space in order to be ideal. The female ideal image is about disappearing while the male ideal image is about being as big as possible.
Dreamworlds 3 was really uncomfortable to watch. However, it’s interesting that when these music videos are released separately and not in a stream like seen in Dreamworlds 3 the comfort issue isn’t a factor because the views go into the millions.
It’s disappointing that artists are forced to believe that a woman’s body has to be sexually objectified to sell music. Artists themselves have admitted that their music videos are “all about the girls,” while I would think that that idea would offend an artist who just spent time to write and sing/perform a song it’s become the reality of their music. So why continue making it?
I think one of the most disappointing aspects of these music videos is that there are no boundaries. Women’s bodies become objects in these music videos. This is seen as a guy uses a females body to swipe his credit card or thrown money at. It’s disgusting and something that I wish I could say I increasingly see less of, but in reality only see more of.
What’s even more off putting is that many of these artists that are using women’s bodies as objects are married or have daughters of their own. Just like I wouldn’t want a son of mine to grow up without acknowledging his emotions, and hiding his feelings I would hope a male wouldn’t want his daughter being objectified the way the females in these videos are. What’s even more disturbing is that fact that females are lead to believe that this is not a big deal, and that if men want to see them in this way than that’s how they’ll see them. Why does society continue to create this idea that this is what men should want to see, and if they don’t than they’re automatically less of a man. The question that lingers for me though is how do you change what has become the norm for these artists and what lead to this idea in the first place?